As a Mommy, what is your first reaction when your child hurts themselves and gets an owie? Mine is to try and comfort/kiss the owie and make it better...you know, the whole "Let Mommy kiss it and make it better" approach? Yeah, well- I try that and Ethan rejects it. What gives? He looks at me like he wants me to make it better but then he won't let me touch or see the boo boo. It's kind of heartbreaking. I always jump to his aid when he slips and I can tell that something hurts, but he always pushes me away. Is it so much to ask for a Mama to be able to make her baby feel better? I just know that when Ethan shows pain, it REALLY hurts because his pain tolerance is so high. I hate to not try and comfort him since he just rejects it, but sometimes this Mama is a little sensitive and would just really love it if she felt needed.
Friday, January 15, 2010
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Well, I know it's not the same thing, but I have real "owie" issues with my Jordan. For some reason, every time she gets hurt, she'll give that initial look of surprise, and then pain, and then it goes straight to anger. (Even with the obviously quite painful owies.) She won't let you touch her or see the owie and she usually gets really angry at you just for being there...often she'll start to yell at whoever's around blaming them for letting her get hurt. It's a weird quirk of hers that is difficult to "mommy through." I don't know how to handle it...I want to comfort and help, but I find myself correcting instead. Like I said, I know it's not the same thing, but it's something that I've found none of the other moms I talk to have experienced.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he is afraid that touching it may hurt more or maybe he just wants to be independent. All the same....it doesn't make mommies feel very good. On a side note, I LOVE your new page. Haven't stopped by in awhile so it may not be that new to you. So adorable!
ReplyDeleteWe have issues with Olivia with this but it is a bit different but frustrating all the same. Everything with her is the end of the world, she wants the comfort but doesn't trust anyone to fix it, touch it or look at it. If she ever truly hurt herself she would probably need to be sedated, not kidding. It scares the crap out of me. All 3 of my kids are different and I am not sure how to handle any of it, UGH!
ReplyDeleteOlivia had 2 ER runs this year for freaks out of absolutely NOTHING....we paid out the whazoo because she is so over the top emotional it is hard to tell if it is serious.
Good luck!