Open Letter to My Brother

Dear Kolt,

Today is your 30th Birthday.  First and foremost, I want to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!  I do hope that you can find happiness from this day forward.

I have now been back home in North Carolina for over a week and I'm sad that I didn't get to see you and give you an early birthday hug before I left.  It saddens me that one person has come between you and your entire family.

As you turn 30 today, I want you to let go of the anger.  Your heart will never heal if you don't let it go.  Your son deserves to know what forgiveness is and know that his Dad loves HIM enough to let it go.  You may think that you are hurting others the most by your hurtful words and actions, but it is you and your son who are hurting the most. 

Kristopher is being pulled in a dozen different directions and is confused and angry, too.  Please, I beg of you, do NOT be the father that is causing and adding to his hurt.  Look at your son in this picture from Kamrin's wedding- look at that pride, happiness, and joy in his face.  I did not see that in his face at all last month.  Please stop punishing him because you want to hurt our parents.  It's not fair.  It's not right.

Cherished photo.  Father & Son love.  Sparkle in both of your eyes.

 Please, please, please stop jumping to conclusions from what you have been told by your "fiance".  She had my support until it became clearly obvious that she lies to you on a constant basis in order to drive a larger wedge between you and your family.  Calm discussions can reveal bigger truths.  Don't be blind to what is happening here.  You are a very smart guy, but make very irrational, split-second decisions without thought and that drives us crazy.  We see the potential you have and it is so bothersome when you don't even attempt to do positive things. 

Your FAMILY.  Despite what has been convinced to you- we DO love you.  We want the absolute BEST for you.  We want your happiness. 

My little brother.  I love this picture of you.  Sly grin and dimples.  Love.

Kolt, you are very much loved.  But, we cannot continue to put ourselves in your path when it is nothing but destructive and where we are subjected to verbal abuse from you.  Like I have told you before- I have always loved you, always been your advocate, your supporter.  I have stuck up for you since you were little, I have told you the truth, and I have always been honest with you about my feelings.  I have not been the perfect sister, but who is? 

I'm choosing, today, to think of you on Kamrin's wedding day- a man full of pride for his baby sister.  That is the man I think of as my brother.  He was happy, he was funny, he was silly, he was loving...that is the man that I wish for you to be on a daily basis.  This is my birthday wish for you.

I love you my little brother.
Kristen